Two Antidotes to Unhappiness: Self-Reflection and Realistic Thinking

Unrealistic expectations are beliefs or assumptions about how things should be, rather than how they are, often leading to disappointment and frustration. Examples include expecting everyone to like you, believing life should be fair, or assuming your partner will change to fit your needs perfectly. Not only can these expectations negatively impact your mental health and your relationships,  but they can also cause you to be unhappy. It follows that looking for happiness outside of yourself is just as unproductive. If you need material possessions or the approval of others to feel good about yourself, your happiness is at stake. Of course, there are times when a new outfit or an ‘atta boy’ or ‘atta girl’ from the boss boosts your mood. If you spend most of your time shopping or seeking praise, you’re going to find happiness to be elusive.

True happiness comes from within. It’s knowing that you can make yourself happy, regardless of what’s going on around you — even when the drama or chaos of others surrounds you. It’s the knowledge that you don’t have to get involved. Instead, you can always be empathetic while maintaining clear boundaries. If necessary, you can even avoid people who drain your energy, cause you stress, or make you feel uncomfortable. It’s choosing to be around people not because you need them, but because you enjoy their company. Why? Because they encourage you to be your best self and brighten your day. Most of all, it’s valuing your time and using it in ways that help you evolve and grow.

Why is Happiness Important? If you’ve read my other blogs, you already know the answer, but if not, research confirms that happiness is important because it positively impacts nearly every area of your life. This includes your physical and mental well-being, your relationships, and your productivity. Being happy also strengthens your immune system, improves heart health, increases longevity, and reduces stress. Additionally, happiness fosters resilience, making it easier to cope with challenges and setbacks.  If you’re not satisfied, you may want to take action.